So, Election Day has come and gone. Thank god! I can’t believe the wave of emotions I have been feeling. I will talk more about that later. As a survivor of rape, we need to talk about this. Talking about rape is so important!
I was raped four times by my now ex boyfriend’s best friend. I was so scared. I bought into the thoughts that it was my fault. It was never my fault. I said no. I wasn’t strong enough to fight. I’m talking about being paralyzed with fear of my friends in the next room blaming me.
When they found out I had a hard time letting them touch me. But I did let them hug me after I calmed down.
About a year and a half after being raped, I was contacted by someone from San Diego PD about it. They told me a friend of mine had told them what had happened. But they needed to hear it from me and have it be recorded for my statement. That day I found out he had assulted three other women one of which was a minor. That pissed me off. I started on the path of recovery that day.
If you are reading this and have been touched in a way that was unwanted speak up! No more blaming yourself. You are the only one that will stand up for you!
On why we need to talk about rape and sexual assault: “Though our experiences may vary; the bond of terror is singular.”