Lately I have been seeing these social experiments about kids and talking to strangers, and just today, an experiment about the father being set up in a mock scenario where his son get abducted.. You can watch it here.
Please tell your kids that an adult will not ask them for help. It is okay for your kids to tell an adult that they don’t know no! It is okay for them to keep saying no and yelling for you until you get to them.
Our kids need to be taught to be careful, observant, and cautious. I feel that if they truly need help, like they get lost, they should know where to ask for help. Kids should know thtat not all adults are safe to talk to.
At the end of the day, get of your electronic devices, be a parent and watch your kids! Don’t just assume they know not to talk to people that they don’t know. Be proactive, and teach them! You are the only Mommy and Daddy that they have. Even if they came to you unexpectedly, teach them!! Love them!
Anxiety makes it hard for me to open up to people. It is hard for me to keep writing about anything really. If you don’t struggle everyday with social anxiety, you are probably wondering why. And that is okay. And you probably are thinking why doesn’t she just get over it? That is okay too.
There is a simple answe for that. I can’t “just get over it.”
Why? Because I can’t change part of my personality. Imagine trying to change your personality or something else that would be impossible to change.
You learn to live with it, you learn coping skills. That is what I have to do every single day. I wake up, and sometimes have a hard time stepping out my front door just because I woke up, and I was overwhelmed already.
Since I have been learning how to cope in therapy, I have had more good days than bad ones.
Do I wish I was “normal”? Some days I do. But then I wouldn’t be able to show my boys how I can get better as a mom and as a person. I get to show them how even as an adult, you can learn, change, and always keep evolving into a better version of myself.
I have recently read a story where the Mother doesn’t make her son share his toys. I know what you are thinking. What?! Why would she not encourage to share?! She wants her son to be able to stand up for himself. Here is the link to the story. Read it!
I will do my best to summerize the story. Basically, she doesn’t tell her son he has to share with kids he doesn’t know at the park. On the occasion she posted about, her son brought toys to share with a friend at the park. When they arived, some other kids came over and wanted to play with the toys. Her son, got overwhelmed with this. But she told him he could tell them no.
In my opinion, I feel that by teaching her son to stand up for himself, she is teaching him more than how to stand up for himself. She is also teaching him boundaries, and to respect other. By respect I mean, if someone tells you no, then that is the end of it and he is to go on his way, and not tattle on them.